Divorce is never the first choice for Indiana parents, but there are situations where it’s their only option. Unfortunately, children often suffer the brunt of the burden of divorce, as they may lose their sense of normalcy and security. Fortunately, there are some steps that parents can take to keep their divorces child-focused.
Avoiding court
While you must allow a judge to sign off on your divorce and issue a final divorce decree, you don’t have to fight with your ex in court. Avoiding court not only prevents your child from seeing you and your ex fighting, but it also protects them from finding out things that they don’t need to know. Court records are available to the public, but working with a mediator ensures confidentiality.
Don’t weaponize your kids
Every state in the US has parental alienation laws in place. These laws ensure that one parent doesn’t actively try to sabotage the relationship that their children have with the other parent. Don’t use your children to spy on your ex, don’t ask them to carry messages to your ex and never try to make your child choose sides in your divorce.
Prioritize your relationship
There is nothing you can do to dictate the way that your ex interacts with your children. However, you can prioritize your own relationship with your children, ensuring them that they remain a vital part of your life. Take the time to make special memories with your children when they’re in your custody.
Also, prioritize the emotional and mental health of your children. While you don’t want to unload your emotional baggage on them, don’t be afraid to let them know that you’re disappointed in how things ended. This creates a safe space for your children to share their feelings.
Your divorce means that your child’s life is forever changed. Remaining child-focused during and after your divorce can lessen their trauma.